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Jul 17, 2019

Are you thinking about having kids? Ever wonder what you need to know or maybe what things you shouldn’t worry about? Where do you start? In this episode Billy & Joy discuss six crucial practices to develop before you have kids. While this list isn’t exhaustive, it’s a great starting point.

Here’s a quick recap of the list:

#1 – Establish healthy habits

#2 – Dial into families whose family (and processes) you admire

#3 – Prioritize your marriage

#4 – Prepare for your new life with some practical questions

#5 – Imagine the failings, disappointments, and flaws with a family

#6 – Practice Serving

Talk about this:

Where do we need to spend time thinking about our pre-kid planning?

Related Link

In case you want to see the list of misspelt words, look HERE 

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Thanks for being awesome!

 

Jul 9, 2019

Do you ever lose your cool?  Have you ever felt like you have one nerve left and everyone is standing on it?  If you’re like us, it’s easy to react to people and circumstances reflexively – to give full range to impatience, frustration, or anger.

In this summer replay episode Billy and Joy kick around the idea of responding rather than reacting to the things that bug us.

Take a listen and form some of your own opinions about their opinions!

Talk about this:

How often do I react to my kids versus respond to them?
What "Pause Phrases" can I use? (Practice them!)
What circumstances do I need to imagine in advance? Where do I struggle to "assume good intentions?"

Related-ish Links

Malaphor examples HERE

Getting to the bottom of disagreements – Episode #84 HERE

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Thanks for being awesome!

 

Jul 2, 2019

I don’t know about you, but quoting movies is one of our favorite hobbies. We love when characters say EXACTLY what’s on our mind. In this episode we kick around a classic exchange between parents that convicts, challenges, AND entertains us. You might want to check out the link below before you listen to this episode so you can “see” what we’re talking about.

Talk about this:

Kick around these quotes - discuss what you find challenging about parenthood. Do any of these ideas ring close to home?
How do you respond to life's messiness?

Related link:

See the movie clip HERE 

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Jun 25, 2019

Have you ever heard of a nameless team…or of a team without logos, colors, and songs? These tools identify groups, rally individuals and galvanize fans. When you see people sporting a particular mascot on the back of their car or t-shirt, you learn something about them. In this episode, we discuss the importance AND the process of creating a family identity.

Talk about this:

What's stopping you from creating a family identity?

What is your process to hone in on your values? When and where will you do it?

How will you display and celebrate your values?

Related link:

HERE is an example of the truth wall mentioned in the episode.

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Jun 11, 2019

We have dug deep into the archives to one of our favorite principles - establishing keystone habits that help make and keep a family healthy.

We all have habits. We all do little things daily that add up to something bigger than we expect. In this episode Billy and Joy discuss Charles Duhigg’s concepts around Keystone Habits and how little efforts can make a big difference in our relationships and with our families. Take a listen and find small victories you can have with little changes!

Talk about this:

What ills do you see in your marriage / family that might improve in the presence of a good keystone habit?

What Keystone habits do you ALREADY do?

What others might you try adding on?

Remember – just introduce one new habit at a time!!

Related Links:

If you love this topic, we highly recommend Charles Duhigg’s book, The Power of Habit

Listen to Duhigg’s TED Talk HERE

The Jerry Seinfeld “Don’t Break The Chain” calendar explained HERE.  

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Thanks for being awesome!

 

Jun 4, 2019

When someone says you should “invest in your marriage” do you ever wonder what that means? How can you make the idea practical?  Look no further! We have 20 quick ideas for you!

Talk About This:

Today’s episode is less about talking and more about DOING! Pick your favorite “investment reminders” from the show and do some of them!

Related Links:

Episode #57 – Hurry Home

Episode #9 – Making In –Law Relationships Work

Episode #45- Let’s Talk About Sex: Marriage Edition

Episode # 95 – Marriage As A Team Sport

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman HERE

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Thanks for being awesome!

 

May 28, 2019

Are you ready for summer? Even though it feels like we have barely defrosted from winter, the days of grilling, swimming, and sunscreen are here. If you’re like many parents, the change of routine has its blessings and curses.

On this REPLAY episode Billy and Joy discuss practical tips for making summer fun with just a little bit of effort. Have a listen!

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May 21, 2019

Have you or your spouse ever felt judged by your in-laws? If so, you know the experience is not just challenging, it’s emotional. How do you navigate these treacherous waters and still maintain a relationship? That’s today’s conversation.

Talk About This:

As you process with your spouse consider the five ideas

1 - How can you create space for your emotions?

2 - In what way do you need to cultivate understanding?

3 - Where do you have expectations as it relates to your inlaws?

4 - Consider what's the best way to plan for the long term?

5 - Do you embrace the "we" factor or does your spouse feel at all accused?

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Thanks for being awesome!

 

May 14, 2019

What do you want to be when you grow up? This seems like a harmless question, right? But what if it undermines what we really want for our kids? That’s the thesis of a recent article by Adam Grant and the topic of today’s podcast.

Talk About This:

When we talk about the future with our kids, how much do we emphasize the "what" you'll be versus what you'll be "LIKE?"

What are the potential liabilities in the way we talk future employment with our kids? What should we continue to emphasize in the same way?

What unique personalities, types, or wirings separate our kids (or separate our kids from us) that should be noticed as we have future-oriented conversations? 

Related-ish Links:

The Full NYT article by Adam Grant HERE 

Dolphin like submarine video HERE

Adam Grant TED talk HERE and his book Originals HERE 

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Finally, if you don’t know where to begin listening to back episodes of the podcast, look for the helpful packages on our website betweenparentspodcast.com

Thanks for being awesome!

May 7, 2019

Today’s episode clears out some of the random questions we have received about family life. There’s a little something for everyone here PLUS maybe we answered a question that’s been on your mind too!

Talk About This:

In what areas do we struggle with being servant-hearted?

What are key words/phrases we can use to elevate our service factor?

What prevents our ability to release our expectations in our relationships?

Who do we need to spend time with those behind us (newer to) in their season of marriage?

Discuss the idea of opening up your home to others. Are you ready for that? What would be your hesitations? What makes you excited about doing so?

Related Links:

Episode #89 Why Married People Need Single Friends (& Vise Versa)

 

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Apr 30, 2019

Are you ever tempted to control your kids? Perhaps you’re merely tempted to drift into the world of “over-managing” them. Whatever the case, in this episode we give you a word picture WE LOVE that can help you stop the control madness!

Talk About This:

We encourage you to talk to your spouse and extended friends and family about the idea of being a Gardener or an Architect. Work to bring that language into your conversations.

Then identify how your mindset reflects Gardner ideas or Architect ideas. How is this mindset helping or hurting?

NEXT consider what behaviors need to change BECAUSE of this mindset.

Finally, discuss where you feel most pressure to grow at home- curiosity/patience? Improving environments? Or purging worry? 

Related Links:

Episode #65 – Balancing Freedom & Responsibility

Episode #114 – How to Worry Less About Your Kids

Neil Gaiman on the Tim Ferris Podcast

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Apr 16, 2019

Some say "life is a series of negotiations," so why shouldn’t marriage be the same way?  

In this episode we’ll discuss how negotiations is not only tedious, but also dangerous to your relationship with your spouse. Then, we’ll also suggest an alternate approach.

Talk About This:

Discuss your tendencies to turn challenges into negotiations. Does this happen often? Sometimes? Rarely?

When are you most likely to negotiate instead of white boarding your challenges as a couple?

What are reminders/key words you can use with your spouse to make sure the next decision is handled with a "team" approach?

What potential decisions are in your future where you might be tempted to negotiate?

Related Links:

Episode #29 - The Mosquitos of Marriage

Decisive by Chip & Dan Heath

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Apr 9, 2019

Who are you?

I don’t understand him!

I don’t get her!

These are common frustrations in any relationship, but what can you do to move pass misunderstanding? How can you demystify your spouse? That’s today’s conversation!

Talk About This:

Take one of the areas of your marriage and talk to your spouse about how your behavior reflects Nature, Nurture, and/or Choice. Possible non-emotional areas to process are:

  • Where and how do you like to vacation
  • How do you like to spend your evenings
  • How do you respond to music

Related Links:

Episode # 107 – Understanding Personality Types in Marriage

Episode # 126 – The Five Seasons of Marriage Differences

Episode # 52 – How Family of Origin Impacts Your Marriage

Episode # 97 – Forgiveness in Marriage 

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Mar 26, 2019

Unfortunately this simple question doesn’t have a simple answer. 

In this episode Billy and Joy discussed the critical milestones your kids should reach before getting a phone and the markers you’ll need to notice and, as necessary, discuss with your kids during the Pre-Phone Season. 

Now it’s time for you to have your own discussion. These questions should get you started!

TALK ABOUT THIS:

  • How digitally mature are your kids?
  • What conversations do you need to initiate with your kids?
  • What have been your biggest takeaways through this podcast series? 
  • What changes or additions do you want to make? 
  • What other adults are you having this conversation with on a regular basis?

 

LINKS:

RESOURCES FROM TRANSIT STUDENTS (North Point Community Church):

TECHNOLOGY SOLUTIONS:

Mar 26, 2019

In the last episode we introduced the idea of evaluating digital maturity through a three-part filter - WHEN/HOW MUCH/WHY.

Keep those categories in mind as you listen to episode four. Then get ready to talk strategy! The discussion questions below should prompt you to share how to practically apply those filters in our families. However, you should use this time to get at the best ideas and to consider where you might need to make some changes!

 

TALK ABOUT THIS:

  • What digital guidelines do we have for our family? How do you know they are working?
  • Ask everyone to give a grade on their techniques considering the pros and cons. 
  • What digital guidelines do we want for our family? 
  • What are the best ways for us to have healthy discussion as a family around digital issues? 
  • What are the opportunities for us to use technology for good together? 
  • Are our kids mature enough to handle the digital opportunities we are giving them?

LINK:

BOOK: The Tech Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place.

by Andy Crouch

Mar 26, 2019

The primary role of a parent is to raise our kids into mature adults. This includes people who know how to do their own laundry, work, pay a few bills, recycle and maybe even get their own place to live! 

However, in the age of constant electronic connection, parents have a new item in their job description: raising digitally mature adults.  

Where do you begin? How do you know that maturity actually exists? Listen to this episode as a prompt for the discussion questions below.

TALK ABOUT THIS:

  • How do you define “digital maturity?” Does it differ from what you heard in the episode?
  • From your perspective, which seems to be the biggest challenge for your kids:
  • WHEN they use it
  • HOW MUCH they use it, or 
  • WHY they use it?
  • Ask your kids to identify their challenges, too. Do they match?
  • What are YOUR challenges with tech? (Remember, you don't get off the hook!) 
  • What should each of you do in response to these challenges?
  • How do you rate your ability to discuss your family tech struggles? Discuss how you can incorporate the language of WHEN/HOW MUCH/WHY into regular conversations. 

LINK: 

BOOK: Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls by Lisa Damour

Mar 26, 2019

When parents discuss technology, they frequently have negative opinions. 

Finding the threats to safety, attitudes, and relationships is an easy exercise, but what about the good? Are we worried about something innocuous? Or is technology going to ruin our families?

After you listen to this episode, have a candid discussion to assess if you’re overly concerned OR if you need to pay closer attention to what’s happening with these devices.

TALK ABOUT THIS:

  • Which POSITIVE benefits of technology have you seen in your home?
  • Consider the positive impact of time management, improved efficiency, and better connections.
  • Which NEGATIVE repercussions have you felt in your home?  
  • Consider the negative impact of time management, improved efficiency, and better connections.
  • If you have teenagers, ask THEM these questions, too! What did you learn? 
  • What factor does FEAR play in your approach to giving your kids digital opportunities? 
  • What adjustments should we make to our thinking?

LINK:

BOOK: The Tech Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place.

by Andy Crouch

Mar 26, 2019

Remember life before smartphones?  Do you ever wish we could go back to those days?  

Chances are your kids won’t ever distinguish between being on or off line because life will simply be online all the time. So since our digital devices are here to stay, how do we manage the impact on our lives? How do we navigate the tension when our kids seem obsessed with screens and parents might be a wee bit addicted too?

Listen to episode one then have a candid conversation about managing the tension tech brings. 

TALK ABOUT THIS:

  • How addicted are you to your devices? Do you struggle with feeling like a hypocrite?
  • Where do you fall on the technology pendulum? Are you more likely to see devices as a non-issue or are you hyper-concerned? Does it vary? why?
  • What are you emotions when it comes to parenting around technology?
  • In what ways do you relate to the idea of being a “digital immigrant?” Are you reluctant to jump into the new culture? How are you resistant to embracing the new motherland?
  • How do you see your kids being “digital natives?” Are any of their natural adaptations intimidating to you?
  • How can you connect with your kids THIS WEEK to understand more of their world? What specific app/game/YouTube star are you willing to have them teach you on? 

LINK:

BOOK: Right Click: Parenting Your Teenager In A Digital Media World 

by Dr. Kara Powell, Art Bamford, Brad M Griffin

Mar 19, 2019

Have you ever wondered how you’re doing as a parent? What do your kids think about the way you handle the family? If you want some insightful comments, ask them! In this episode we’ll discuss how to solicit feedback from the people who experience your highs and lows first hand.

Talk About This:

Although this week was all about questions, we still think there are a few things you should process with your spouse.  

Discuss the answers you got from your kids and what you learned. Did any of the answers surprise you?

Are there things you need to change in light of your kid's answers?

What would you do differently the next time you plan an "awkward" session?

Related Links:

Episode #11 – The Awkward Date Night

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Want to reach us? You can find us on the socials @betweenparents on Instagram and @betweenparentspodcast on Facebook. While you’re there, tag someone who would also enjoy this content! 

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Thanks for being awesome!

 

Mar 12, 2019

Have you ever noticed how your spouse is different from you? Have you ever been irritated by the difference? Maybe you’ve been able to move past the difference and ended up in a really happy place. What accounts for the spread between irritation and celebration? That’s the discussion on this episode!

Talk About This:

Evaluate what season are you in?

Is your spouse in the same season?

What are the differences that need to be celebrated?

What obstacles are preventing you from moving to season 4 or 5 (Appreciation/Celebration)

Related Links:

Episode #60 – What To Do When Your Spouse Annoys

Episode #107 – Understanding Personality Types

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Want to reach us? You can find us on the socials @betweenparents on Instagram and @betweenparentspodcast on Facebook. While you’re there, tag someone who would also enjoy this content! 

Finally, if you don’t know where to begin listening to back episodes of the podcast, look for the helpful packages on our website betweenparentspodcast.com

Thanks for being awesome!

 

Mar 5, 2019

If you have kids middle school age or younger today’s episode gives you some bite-sized thoughts to digest. Consider it a little encouragement for walking through the season of raging hormones, emotional tsunamis, and one-word answers.

Talk About This:

Which resonate with you most?

Which are you already doing?  

Which will be hardest for you to implement?

Which do you want to try?

Related Links:

Episode 8 - Is this Really Just a Stage?

Episode 73 - Enjoying the Middle School Years

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Want to reach us? You can find us on the socials @betweenparents on Instagram and @betweenparentspodcast on Facebook. While you’re there, tag someone who would also enjoy this content! 

Finally, if you don’t know where to begin listening to back episodes of the podcast, look for the helpful packages on our website betweenparentspodcast.com

Thanks for being awesome!

 

Feb 26, 2019

Are you stressed out when parents “brag” about their kids? Do you ever feel like you don’t measure up in the land of parents? You’re not alone and you’re not crazy. But what do you do to relieve the pressure when you feel like raising kids is a competition? Let’s chat about it!

Talk About This:

How often do I feel competitive with other parents? What are the triggers?
Is there anything I do that could make other parents feel like I am being competitive with them?
What specific person/family do I need to celebrate more?

Related Links:

Mindset by Carol Dweck

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Thanks for being awesome!

 

Feb 19, 2019

If you’re newly pregnant or know someone who is today’s discussion is practical and encouraging! We kick around the question about whether you can “over share” and what it means to curate rather than collect advice. Take a listen (and congratulations!)

Talk About This:

Which of these 10 tips feels most challenging? Why?

How should we prioritize this advice?

Related Links:

#90 - What New Parents Wish Grandparents Knew

#25 - Ten Guiding Principles for Parents with Newborns

#54 - Toddler 101: Parenting Through the Early Years

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Finally, if you don’t know where to begin listening to back episodes of the podcast, look for the helpful packages on our website betweenparentspodcast.com

Thanks for being awesome!

 

Feb 12, 2019

Do you love or hate Valentine’s Day? We are surprised how many people fall into the loathing camp! Perhaps it’s time to reframe this holiday and make it fun again. Today’s podcast gives you five ways to make that happen!

Talk About This:

Ask your spouse what they think their love language is...gifts/physical touch/words of affirmation/acts of service/quality time

Ask your spouse if they feel like Valentine's Day fills them up or drains them.

Talk about how you would MOST like to acknowledge the day (OR NOT) - remember - if it's a stressful thing, then you're not doing it right. We should ENJOY CELEBRATIONS ; ) - and that can mean simply letting them pass OR buying a box of chocolates.

Related Links:

The Five Love Languages By Gary Chapman HERE

Waffle House Valentine’s Day HERE

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Want to reach us? You can find us on the socials @betweenparents on Instagram and @betweenparentspodcast on Facebook. While you’re there, tag someone who would also enjoy this content! 

Finally, if you don’t know where to begin listening to back episodes of the podcast, look for the helpful packages on our website betweenparentspodcast.com

Thanks for being awesome!

 

Feb 5, 2019

Disagreements are part of every marriage, but do we have to fight? Or is it better to stuff our feelings in the name of keeping the peace? What if there’s a third option? That’s the discussion on this episode.

Talk About This:

Ask your spouse where THEY think you fall on the spectrum.

DO NOT DISAGREE - JUST LISTEN

In light of where you land, go through the three practice areas and decide what changes you need to make.

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Want to reach us? You can find us on the socials @betweenparents on Instagram and @betweenparentspodcast on Facebook. While you’re there, tag someone who would also enjoy this content! 

Finally, if you don’t know where to begin listening to back episodes of the podcast, look for the helpful packages on our website betweenparentspodcast.com

Thanks for being awesome!

 

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