Have you ever heard of a nameless team…or of a team without logos, colors, and songs? These tools identify groups, rally individuals and galvanize fans. When you see people sporting a particular mascot on the back of their car or t-shirt, you learn something about them. In this episode, we discuss the importance AND the process of creating a family identity.
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What's stopping you from creating a family identity?
What is your process to hone in on your values? When and where will you do it?
How will you display and celebrate your values?
Related link:
HERE is an example of the truth wall mentioned in the episode.
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We have dug deep into the archives to one of our favorite principles - establishing keystone habits that help make and keep a family healthy.
We all have habits. We all do little things daily that add up to something bigger than we expect. In this episode Billy and Joy discuss Charles Duhigg’s concepts around Keystone Habits and how little efforts can make a big difference in our relationships and with our families. Take a listen and find small victories you can have with little changes!
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What ills do you see in your marriage / family that might improve in the presence of a good keystone habit?
What Keystone habits do you ALREADY do?
What others might you try adding on?
Remember – just introduce one new habit at a time!!
Related Links:
If you love this topic, we highly recommend Charles Duhigg’s book, The Power of Habit
Listen to Duhigg’s TED Talk HERE.
The Jerry Seinfeld “Don’t Break The Chain” calendar explained HERE.
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When someone says you should “invest in your marriage” do you ever wonder what that means? How can you make the idea practical? Look no further! We have 20 quick ideas for you!
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Today’s episode is less about talking and more about DOING! Pick your favorite “investment reminders” from the show and do some of them!
Related Links:
Episode #57 – Hurry Home
Episode #9 – Making In –Law Relationships Work
Episode #45- Let’s Talk About Sex: Marriage Edition
Episode # 95 – Marriage As A Team Sport
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman HERE
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Are you ready for summer? Even though it feels like we have barely defrosted from winter, the days of grilling, swimming, and sunscreen are here. If you’re like many parents, the change of routine has its blessings and curses.
On this REPLAY episode Billy and Joy discuss practical tips for making summer fun with just a little bit of effort. Have a listen!
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Have you or your spouse ever felt judged by your in-laws? If so, you know the experience is not just challenging, it’s emotional. How do you navigate these treacherous waters and still maintain a relationship? That’s today’s conversation.
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As you process with your spouse consider the five ideas
1 - How can you create space for your emotions?
2 - In what way do you need to cultivate understanding?
3 - Where do you have expectations as it relates to your inlaws?
4 - Consider what's the best way to plan for the long term?
5 - Do you embrace the "we" factor or does your spouse feel at all accused?
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What do you want to be when you grow up? This seems like a harmless question, right? But what if it undermines what we really want for our kids? That’s the thesis of a recent article by Adam Grant and the topic of today’s podcast.
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When we talk about the future with our kids, how much do we emphasize the "what" you'll be versus what you'll be "LIKE?"
What are the potential liabilities in the way we talk future employment with our kids? What should we continue to emphasize in the same way?
What unique personalities, types, or wirings separate our kids (or separate our kids from us) that should be noticed as we have future-oriented conversations?
Related-ish Links:
The Full NYT article by Adam Grant HERE
Dolphin like submarine video HERE
Adam Grant TED talk HERE and his book Originals HERE
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Today’s episode clears out some of the random questions we have received about family life. There’s a little something for everyone here PLUS maybe we answered a question that’s been on your mind too!
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In what areas do we struggle with being servant-hearted?
What are key words/phrases we can use to elevate our service factor?
What prevents our ability to release our expectations in our relationships?
Who do we need to spend time with those behind us (newer to) in their season of marriage?
Discuss the idea of opening up your home to others. Are you ready for that? What would be your hesitations? What makes you excited about doing so?
Related Links:
Episode #89 – Why Married People Need Single Friends (& Vise Versa)
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Are you ever tempted to control your kids? Perhaps you’re merely tempted to drift into the world of “over-managing” them. Whatever the case, in this episode we give you a word picture WE LOVE that can help you stop the control madness!
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We encourage you to talk to your spouse and extended friends and family about the idea of being a Gardener or an Architect. Work to bring that language into your conversations.
Then identify how your mindset reflects Gardner ideas or Architect ideas. How is this mindset helping or hurting?
NEXT consider what behaviors need to change BECAUSE of this mindset.
Finally, discuss where you feel most pressure to grow at home- curiosity/patience? Improving environments? Or purging worry?
Related Links:
Episode #65 – Balancing Freedom & Responsibility
Episode #114 – How to Worry Less About Your Kids
Neil Gaiman on the Tim Ferris Podcast
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Some say "life is a series of negotiations," so why shouldn’t marriage be the same way?
In this episode we’ll discuss how negotiations is not only tedious, but also dangerous to your relationship with your spouse. Then, we’ll also suggest an alternate approach.
Talk About This:
Discuss your tendencies to turn challenges into negotiations. Does this happen often? Sometimes? Rarely?
When are you most likely to negotiate instead of white boarding your challenges as a couple?
What are reminders/key words you can use with your spouse to make sure the next decision is handled with a "team" approach?
What potential decisions are in your future where you might be tempted to negotiate?
Related Links:
Episode #29 - The Mosquitos of Marriage
Decisive by Chip & Dan Heath
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Who are you?
I don’t understand him!
I don’t get her!
These are common frustrations in any relationship, but what can you do to move pass misunderstanding? How can you demystify your spouse? That’s today’s conversation!
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Take one of the areas of your marriage and talk to your spouse about how your behavior reflects Nature, Nurture, and/or Choice. Possible non-emotional areas to process are:
Related Links:
Episode # 107 – Understanding Personality Types in Marriage
Episode # 126 – The Five Seasons of Marriage Differences
Episode # 52 – How Family of Origin Impacts Your Marriage
Episode # 97 – Forgiveness in Marriage
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Unfortunately this simple question doesn’t have a simple answer.
In this episode Billy and Joy discussed the critical milestones your kids should reach before getting a phone and the markers you’ll need to notice and, as necessary, discuss with your kids during the Pre-Phone Season.
Now it’s time for you to have your own discussion. These questions should get you started!
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LINKS:
RESOURCES FROM TRANSIT STUDENTS (North Point Community Church):
TECHNOLOGY SOLUTIONS:
In the last episode we introduced the idea of evaluating digital maturity through a three-part filter - WHEN/HOW MUCH/WHY.
Keep those categories in mind as you listen to episode four. Then get ready to talk strategy! The discussion questions below should prompt you to share how to practically apply those filters in our families. However, you should use this time to get at the best ideas and to consider where you might need to make some changes!
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LINK:
BOOK: The Tech Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place.
by Andy Crouch
The primary role of a parent is to raise our kids into mature adults. This includes people who know how to do their own laundry, work, pay a few bills, recycle and maybe even get their own place to live!
However, in the age of constant electronic connection, parents have a new item in their job description: raising digitally mature adults.
Where do you begin? How do you know that maturity actually exists? Listen to this episode as a prompt for the discussion questions below.
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LINK:
BOOK: Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls by Lisa Damour
When parents discuss technology, they frequently have negative opinions.
Finding the threats to safety, attitudes, and relationships is an easy exercise, but what about the good? Are we worried about something innocuous? Or is technology going to ruin our families?
After you listen to this episode, have a candid discussion to assess if you’re overly concerned OR if you need to pay closer attention to what’s happening with these devices.
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LINK:
BOOK: The Tech Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place.
by Andy Crouch
Remember life before smartphones? Do you ever wish we could go back to those days?
Chances are your kids won’t ever distinguish between being on or off line because life will simply be online all the time. So since our digital devices are here to stay, how do we manage the impact on our lives? How do we navigate the tension when our kids seem obsessed with screens and parents might be a wee bit addicted too?
Listen to episode one then have a candid conversation about managing the tension tech brings.
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LINK:
BOOK: Right Click: Parenting Your Teenager In A Digital Media World
by Dr. Kara Powell, Art Bamford, Brad M Griffin
Have you ever wondered how you’re doing as a parent? What do your kids think about the way you handle the family? If you want some insightful comments, ask them! In this episode we’ll discuss how to solicit feedback from the people who experience your highs and lows first hand.
Talk About This:
Although this week was all about questions, we still think there are a few things you should process with your spouse.
Discuss the answers you got from your kids and what you learned. Did any of the answers surprise you?
Are there things you need to change in light of your kid's answers?
What would you do differently the next time you plan an "awkward" session?
Related Links:
Episode #11 – The Awkward Date Night
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Have you ever noticed how your spouse is different from you? Have you ever been irritated by the difference? Maybe you’ve been able to move past the difference and ended up in a really happy place. What accounts for the spread between irritation and celebration? That’s the discussion on this episode!
Talk About This:
Evaluate what season are you in?
Is your spouse in the same season?
What are the differences that need to be celebrated?
What obstacles are preventing you from moving to season 4 or 5 (Appreciation/Celebration)
Related Links:
Episode #60 – What To Do When Your Spouse Annoys
Episode #107 – Understanding Personality Types
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If you have kids middle school age or younger today’s episode gives you some bite-sized thoughts to digest. Consider it a little encouragement for walking through the season of raging hormones, emotional tsunamis, and one-word answers.
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Which resonate with you most?
Which are you already doing?
Which will be hardest for you to implement?
Which do you want to try?
Related Links:
Episode 8 - Is this Really Just a Stage?
Episode 73 - Enjoying the Middle School Years
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Are you stressed out when parents “brag” about their kids? Do you ever feel like you don’t measure up in the land of parents? You’re not alone and you’re not crazy. But what do you do to relieve the pressure when you feel like raising kids is a competition? Let’s chat about it!
Talk About This:
How often do I feel competitive with other parents? What are the triggers?
Is there anything I do that could make other parents feel like I am being competitive with them?
What specific person/family do I need to celebrate more?
Related Links:
Mindset by Carol Dweck
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If you’re newly pregnant or know someone who is today’s discussion is practical and encouraging! We kick around the question about whether you can “over share” and what it means to curate rather than collect advice. Take a listen (and congratulations!)
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Which of these 10 tips feels most challenging? Why?
How should we prioritize this advice?
Related Links:
#90 - What New Parents Wish Grandparents Knew
#25 - Ten Guiding Principles for Parents with Newborns
#54 - Toddler 101: Parenting Through the Early Years
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Do you love or hate Valentine’s Day? We are surprised how many people fall into the loathing camp! Perhaps it’s time to reframe this holiday and make it fun again. Today’s podcast gives you five ways to make that happen!
Talk About This:
Ask your spouse what they think their love language is...gifts/physical touch/words of affirmation/acts of service/quality time
Ask your spouse if they feel like Valentine's Day fills them up or drains them.
Talk about how you would MOST like to acknowledge the day (OR NOT) - remember - if it's a stressful thing, then you're not doing it right. We should ENJOY CELEBRATIONS ; ) - and that can mean simply letting them pass OR buying a box of chocolates.
Related Links:
The Five Love Languages By Gary Chapman HERE
Waffle House Valentine’s Day HERE
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Disagreements are part of every marriage, but do we have to fight? Or is it better to stuff our feelings in the name of keeping the peace? What if there’s a third option? That’s the discussion on this episode.
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Ask your spouse where THEY think you fall on the spectrum.
DO NOT DISAGREE - JUST LISTEN
In light of where you land, go through the three practice areas and decide what changes you need to make.
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Are you exhausted or discouraged? Perhaps a little bit of both? Today’s podcast is for you with five big picture, you-can-do-this, “at the end of the day” bits of encouragement. You’ve got this!
Talk About This:
What thought did I MOST need to hear?
HOW can I commit it to memory?
What other parent needs this encouragement? (pass it along!)
Related Links:
Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl - HERE
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Have you ever been at a store or at a government agency and been completely frustrated with how poorly the place was run? If so, then you’ve come across this principle: A lack of organization leads to relational tension. This is true not only with service organizations - it’s true in our marriages. In this episode we’ll discuss how you can make your marriage better simply by improving some of your systems.
Talk About This:
What tensions do we regularly face that might be related to bad (or no) systems?
What can we do, organizationally, to improve?
What solutions do we need to research or use? (What do we need to learn to make this better?)
Related Links:
Episode # 40 - The One Piece of Data That Blew Our Minds
Date Night blog posts here, here, and here.
PLUS an @home date night idea HERE
Book review – The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up
A Blog post about Creating Homes in the kitchen HERE
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Doesn’t every parent want his or her kid to become independent? While this seems like an obvious “yes,” many parents interrupt their children’s growth process by making life too easy for them. When we fall into the trap of removing hardships and shortening challenges we rob our kids of lessons they will need for life outside the home.
It’s a big topic and we hope today’s discussion challenges your thinking!
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What is my natural bent... to be too permissive or too restrictive on my kid’s push towards independence? What should I do in light of this?
What are some of the reasons I am reluctant to let m kids "do it themselves?"
What are some of the greatest steps to independence I could grant my kids in THIS season of their lives? What are some of their "stretch" activities?
Related Links:
The Coddling of the American Mind HERE
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