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This podcast is a dialog about challenges and opportunities parents face as they raise kids, enjoy marriage, and live a purpose-filled life. These honest conversations give parents fodder so they can talk to each other, be encouraged, and recognize they aren't raising kids alone.
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Now displaying: April, 2017
Apr 25, 2017

Parenting is the perfect environment for fear to grow and flourish…but it doesn’t have to. In today’s episode Joy and Billy kick around a few ideas for getting out of the worry/fear cycle. (And yes, worry is a synonym for fear!) Here’s the four key habits for those of you who like notes!

  1. Name you fears – bringing your fears into the light helps defuse their power.
  2. Get to the root of your fear – knowing what you’re really afraid of helps you understand and deal with the true issue.
  3. Share your fears – there’s power in community.
  4. Take a long view- perspective helps!

Talk about this:
What are you afraid of…really?

Also remember…
We are on Facebook! If you like the page you’ll receive more consistent updates and be able to share episodes with others. Connect with us @BetweenParentsPodcast

Also have you left a review on iTunes? This is SUPER helpful in helping others find our show. Along with iTunes, Overcast, and Stitcher, Between Parents is now on TuneIn (the fun way to listen if you are using Amazon’s Alexa). You can chat back with us on Twitter @between_parents or on Instagram @betweenparents

Thanks for listening and sharing this podcast with your friends!

Apr 18, 2017

When you’re raising a family, it’s easy to drift into command & control mode – to talk AT our kids rather than talk WITH them. In this episode, Billy and Joy chat about how to interrupt the lecture habit with a handful of powerful questions.

  1. What do you want to say? This question encourages kids to use their words to describe their emotions.
  2. Did you do your best? This takes the focus off of comparison in order to emphasize effort.
  3. What do YOU think? The beauty of this question is that with younger children you see their imagination, while with the older set you discover their opinions, logic, and planning skills.
  4. What was your role? This may be the toughest question of all because answering this questions means taking responsibility for your actions.
  5. What was your goal? When you ask this question, you’re exploring your child’s hopes, dreams, and disappointments. This question can be a starting point for a greater depth of connection. 

Related(ish) Follow up Points & Links:

Of COURSE there’s a buzzfeed for those “oddly satisfying” things we find in life. Check out one HERE.

Between? Among? Betwixt? Have we inadvertently misnamed this podcast? UGH! 

“It’s not that I’m so smart, but I stay with the questions much longer.” Albert Einstein

Billy references an earlier podcast about child development/stages (Episode #8 ) which you can also find HERE.

If you’re comparing notes on this topic or podcast, talk about these conversation starters:

  • Do we ask enough questions with our kids? Are we talking AT our kids more than WITH them?
  • Given your child’s developmental stage and wiring, what kinds of questions are most effective?
  • How well do I listen to my kids and how can I improve? Think about the amount of quantity and quality of time, the setting and pace of your conversations, the openness, etc.

Also remember…

We are on Facebook! If you like the page you’ll receive more consistent updates and be able to share episodes with others. Connect with us @BetweenParentsPodcast

Also have you left a review on iTunes? This is SUPER helpful in helping others find our show. Along with iTunes, Overcast, and Stitcher, Between Parents is now on TuneIn (the fun way to listen if you are using Amazon’s Alexa). You can chat back with us on Twitter @between_parents or on Instagram @betweenparents.

Apr 11, 2017

Abandonment, infidelity, abuse – it’s easy to name big issues that undermine relationships, but what about the little things? In this episode Billy & Joy talk about seemingly small habits and blind spots which can also threaten the health of our marriage. We call these behaviors “mosquitos” because while their stature is small, their negative impact is considerable.

Related(ish) Links:

Mosquitos are seriously the deadliest animal in the world. Check THIS out.  

Talk about this:

Identify the threats and consider, what are some of the “mosquito-sized” threats in this particular season of our marriage? (Remember, the threats can change throughout your marriage.

Consider…

Quantity AND consistency of time

Failure to celebrate your spouse

Lingering resentments/keeping score

Failure to be a student of your spouse

Unidentified or unaddressed issues from the past

A lack of self-awareness

What are the practical ways we can “swat ‘em?”

 

Also remember…

We have a new Facebook page! If you like the page you’ll receive more consistent updates and be able to share episodes with others. Connect with us @BetweenParentsPodcast

Finally - Please leave us a review on iTunes. This is SUPER helpful in helping others find our show. Along with iTunes, Overcast, and Stitcher, Between Parents is now on TuneIn (the fun way to listen if you are using Amazon’s Alexa). You can chat back with us on Twitter @between_parents or on Instagram @betweenparents

 

Apr 4, 2017

“Happiness begins where selfishness ends.”

John Wooden, the legendary UCLA basketball coach and all-around leadership guru made this astute observation years ago. In this episode Joy & Billy talk about the impact selfishness has on marriages and parenting. After all, don’t we all want to get our way, to be first, to win? What does it take to live selflessly? While you won’t find all the answers here (far from it!), you should find plenty of things to think about and discuss with the people you “do life with.”

Related(ish) Links:

Read about the amazing High School kid who did nothing but praise fellow students on social media HERE

Talk about this:

Identify the threats -- In what environments/scenarios/seasons do you tend to become most selfish?

Identify situations where you’re most likely to be selfless.

Finally, practice doing something selfless this week – either individually or as a family.

Also remember…

We have a new Facebook page! If you like the page you’ll receive more consistent updates and be able to share episodes with others. Connect with us @BetweenParentsPodcast 

Also - Please leave us a review on iTunes. This is SUPER helpful in helping others find our show. Along with iTunes, Overcast, and Stitcher, Between Parents is now on TuneIn (the fun way to listen if you are using Amazon’s Alexa). You can chat back with us on Twitter @between_parents or on Instagram @betweenparents

 

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