Why do we raise our family the way we do?
What influences us most?
In this episode Billy and Joy discuss the importance of digging into how our past is impacts our family, even subconsciously, and why it can be a problem. We’ll talk about paying attention to the “smoke” in our family and giving ourselves permission to live differently.
Related(ish) Links:
The whole nine toe story
http://joyphenix.com/blog/lessons-in-disobedience-forgiveness-consequences-through-a-missing-toe/
Ellie’s birthday campaign explained in her own words
http://joyphenix.com/blog/ellies-charity-water-13th-birthday-campaign/
If you want to learn more about Charity Water, go here
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“It’s not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship
that makes unhappy marriages.”
F. Niechze
Do you remember when you were first married and you felt good about connecting with your spouse? You enjoyed evenings together, having adventures, and in-depth conversations…then something happened.
For many people the “something” was having kids.
In this episode Billy and Joy talk about a couple of very practical (and admittedly unromantic) ideas for prioritizing your marriage.
Related(ish) Links:
Smoothie straws really are fabulous (especially when they are clean!)
Joy’s written a bunch of posts on this topic, here are a few you might like.
Three reasons your marriage needs getaways
http://joyphenix.com/blog/3-reasons-your-marriage-needs-getaways/
Creating a culture of awesomeness
http://joyphenix.com/blog/how-to-make-marriage-awesomeness-a-reality/
A little more encouragement for scheduling a babysitter!
http://joyphenix.com/blog/you-absolutely-need-a-date-this-weekend/
The short, fabulous book, When Work and Family Collide by Andy Stanley
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Disagreement and tension SHOULD exist between parents and kids.
Where there is friction, there’s an opportunity for learning. Where there’s tension and disagreement, there’s an opportunity to develop emotional intelligence in our kids.
If you’re like us, you probably don’t like the idea that conflict is a necessary part of parenting. In this episode we’ll unpack an article by Lisa Damour which shifted our perspectives on why conflict is a good thing.
Related(ish) Links:
Caramel – there’s more than one way to say this word INCLUDING keeping the second a silent!
http://blog.oxforddictionaries.com/2015/06/9-pronunciation-arguments-you-can-stop-having/
Carmel by the Sea doesn’t have the extra “a” but it DOES have fabulous beaches!
http://www.wikihow.com/Organize-Your-Backpack
The article we are discussing today by Lisa Damour is here
http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2016/03/16/the-best-way-to-fight-with-a-teenager/?_r=0
My more detailed review of Lisa Damour’s book, Untangled
http://joyphenix.com/blog/book-review-untangled/
And if you want to read the book for yourself (and you should!), here’s the Amazon link
For the record…Joy missed a word that Billy clearly understood!
Ne’er-do-well
http://www.dictionary.com/browse/ne-er-do-well
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Wouldn’t it be great to have gauges on our kids telling us how we are doing? Wouldn’t you love to know if your approach to raising kind, healthy, and wise kids was actually working?
We all crave measurement and feedback, but the input in slow in coming. In this episode Billy and Joy talk about the temptation to drift toward things with numbers. They discuss questions we might ask ourselves about what we really value and offer reminders about dangerous comparisons.
Related(ish) Links:
How to hang a roll of toilet paper:
http://mentalfloss.com/article/67036/proper-way-hang-roll-toilet-paper
A far too lengthy Wikipedia post about toilet paper:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toilet_paper_orientation
Salad Days – it’s a thing
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Salad_days
How to properly pack a school backpack
http://www.wikihow.com/Organize-Your-Backpack
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Welcome to Between Parents!
Parenting isn't easy and many people feel stress with their kids, tension in their marriages, or isolation from community. In this first episode Billy and Joy introduce themselves and discuss what listeners can expect from this podcast. The goal for these chats is to create starting points for parents to broaden their inputs and raise ideas which prompt helpful conversations between parents. (See what we did there?)
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