In this episode Billy & Joy discuss the fact from the blog post, The Tail End, that points out that by the time you graduate from high school you will have used 93% of the face-to-face time you have with your parents.
Feel free to re-read that sentence. Doesn’t that stop you in your tracks?
What are the implications to this fact? Get the conversation started with this episode.
Talk about this:
How intentional are your priorities? What needs to change?
In what moments, environments, and practices does conversation & connection flourish? When and where is it a challenge?
Imagine that moment your kids pack up and head to college. What does that moment look and feel like if it is regret-free?
Related(ish) Links:
Shoe-tossing as per Wikipedia
Tim Urban blog post The Tail End
Tim Ferriss interview quote.
Calendar Countdown apps here.
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By the time we reach adulthood everyone has fully developed Operating Systems. These systems are the way we engage with the world in a kind of reflexive manner. They are a well-crafted blend of nature AND nurture and are perfect for achieving the results we are currently experiencing. But because these systems operate in the background, we don’t always recognize what’s working and what’s not. In this episode Billy and Joy tee up a few ideas for identifying our systems and for getting insights into our blind spots.
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Have you ever heard of a nameless team…or of a team without logos, colors, and songs? These are common tools used to identify groups, to rally individuals and to galvanize fans. When you see people sporting a particular mascot on the back of their car, you learn something about them. In this episode, Billy and Joy talk about the importance AND the process of creating a family identity.
Talk about this:
What's stopping you from creating a family identity?
What is your process to hone in on your values? When and where will you do it?
How will you display and celebrate your values?
Related link:
Here’s an example of the truth wall mentioned in the episode. (Click here)
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“Happiness begins where selfishness ends.”
John Wooden, the legendary UCLA basketball coach and all-around leadership guru made this astute observation years ago. In this episode Joy & Billy talk about the impact selfishness has on marriages and parenting. After all, don’t we all want to get our way, to be first, to win? What does it take to live selflessly? While you won’t find all the answers here (far from it!), you should find plenty of things to think about and discuss with the people you “do life with.”
Related(ish) Links:
Read about the amazing High School kid who did nothing but praise fellow students on social media HERE
Talk about this:
Identify the threats -- In what environments/scenarios/seasons do you tend to become most selfish?
Identify situations where you’re most likely to be selfless.
Finally, practice doing something selfless this week – either individually or as a family.
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Getting your kids to eat three meals a day can be stressful. How do you manage to get the right things into their bellies? On this week’s podcast Billy & Joy move beyond the two biggest factors (Environment & Modeling) and talk strategy.
This is the list… (listen to the episode for full context!)
| 1 - Recognize cycles - |
| 2. Continue exposure |
| 3. Don't make it a battle |
| 4. Plate the family food - this helps w/#3 |
| 5. Use a variety of names for |
| 6. Enlist their help |
| 7. Let them help in the meal prep. |
| 8. Praise tastings! |
| 9. Season separately |
| 10. Leverage unique things their friends eat |
| 11. INVEST in your skills -- |
Related(ish) Links
Are kids are hardwired to like certain foods? Check out this study.
This article describes how kids are more likely to taste and respond negatively to bitter foods.
Talk about this… actually, this week just try something new! Let us know what you discover!
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With Joy out of town this week, Billy “goes solo” and shares some of the best and favorite advice he’s received from men who’ve walked before and beside him. Gals, feel free to listen in, but this one is especially designed for the men. A quick recap of the The Big Five (so far) 1. Make a study of your spouse, your family, and yourself. 2. Invest into all your roles fully. 3. Guard your time. 4. Be a protector. 5. Build community As always, we'd love for you to leave us a review and share this podcast with others.
#16 – 8 Questions For A Great Marriage This Year
Do you make New Year’s resolutions? How about at the office, do you set annual goals? People expect to make evaluations and think about how to grow in these areas, but it’s not always common to consider how to make our marriages better.
In this episode, we give you a few questions to ask each other to get any year off to a great start.
These aren’t all encompassing, but they should get you thinking. And remember, to watch your pronouns…this is a “we” discussion!
The 8 Questions
Evaluate what’s past…
Plan for what’s ahead
Odds & Ends….
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If you have more than one child, you know siblings are going to fight. Sometimes the conflict is short and inconsequential, others times...well, it's not.
In this episode Billy and Joy talk about goals for parents and kids for handling disagreements and managing three phases of conflict well.
Take a listen and, more importantly, talk to others about what you hear!
Related (ish) Links
Mattress and cars don't go together! Exhibit A - - here!
If you want more than Joy's passing guess on the Socratic Method, check here.
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Every relationship has its tensions, but hanging with your in-laws has its own brand of intensity. While dynamics can vary wildly, a few basic principles can help any situation. In this episode Billy and Joy talk about a handful of “best practices” which are great foundations for healthy in-law relationships.
Related (ish) Links
Earl Gray is NOT English Breakfast Tea
https://blog.yourtea.com/earl-grey-vs-english-breakfast-tea/
Play the game – can you hear Mack, the yellow lab? He goes on a rolling escapade in the middle of recording ignoring all the pleas of our sound engineer (Billy).
This is a good article about the importance of trying to be empathetic
http://www.wsj.com/articles/why-you-should-have-more-empathy-1462210724
Boundaries are your friend! This is our favorite writers on this topic are Henry Cloud and John Townsend
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When life gets full it’s easy to slip into maintenance mode and drift into isolation. But isolation is terrible for our marriage and family. In this episode Billy and Joy talk about why we avoid being in community, why it matters and how we find connection with others.
Related(ish) Links:
The Jeep Wave – it’s a thing
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Jeep%20Wave
No one describes the shame issue better than Brene Brown. You should watch her TED talk here
http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?language=en
Or pick up her book Daring Greatly
https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419
“If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have the time to do it over?”
John Wooden
Tim Ferris Podcast
http://fourhourworkweek.com/podcast/
“You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with” Jim Rohn
Talk about this: In your world, who is where you want to be? What are the tensions you face that you would want to ask them about? Make a plan to connect!
Are you taking your child on a airplane? Do you know someone who is about to travel with a child?
Do yourself (or them) a favor and listen to this podcast where Joy & Billy discuss some best practices for flying with little ones. (Hint: success is all about your pregame preparations)
Related (ish) links:
Would you rather?
Teaching kids to show respect
http://joyphenix.com/blog/teaching-your-kids-how-to-show-respect/
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Welcome to Between Parents!
Parenting isn't easy and many people feel stress with their kids, tension in their marriages, or isolation from community. In this first episode Billy and Joy introduce themselves and discuss what listeners can expect from this podcast. The goal for these chats is to create starting points for parents to broaden their inputs and raise ideas which prompt helpful conversations between parents. (See what we did there?)
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